Why do you feel like a Failure, exactly?

“I’M NOT DOING ENOUGH!”

“MY TO-DO LIST IS SO LONG!”

“THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE BY NOW!”

“I FEEL SO LAZY!”

If you’ve caught yourself saying any one of these phrases (or some variation), I totally understand. I’ve caught myself too.

What defines “enough”, and why do you feel like you’re not doing it? Isn’t waking up to face a new day and take on any challenges that it could present… Enough?

How about this gem: I SHOULD BE UP THERE, ACCOMPLISHING THINGS…. NOT DOWN HERE, TALKING ABOUT THEM. Everyone else is KILLING the game.

First of all – STOP!

What “everyone else” is doing, is the same thing that you are – waking up to face a new day. However one decides to do that is completely up to them, and there is literally no gauge to determine what that should look like.

I wanted to offer a few that you can ask yourself when you get into the funk, which will keep happening… So hopefully these help!

Your to-do list is really long.

How awesome that you have made a list! Now, ask yourself: Are all the tasks a priority? Did I make the list for the sake of making a list because I should make a list, or did I need to? What are 3 things (or 1 major thing) on the list that I can work on today?

You’ll feel so much more accomplished having one task completed instead of 300 half-done tasks.

You don’t have time to get everything done.

Check out the first point and if, after you’ve answered those questions, you still feel like you should (there’s that word again) be doing more, here’s another question that you can ask: Do I need to get all these things done by myself or can I delegate some?

Make a list of pros (things that bring you joy) and cons (the icky stuff that has to be done, but you don’t want to do them). What are you willing to give to someone else? Why aren’t you willing to hand over some of the work?

You can’t focus on doing anything but “sit around”.

Perhaps you need a break? WHAT A THOUGHT! Ask yourself: would I rather work when I don’t feel motivated or give myself permission to take care of myself? When was the last time I paid some attention to proper self-care?

If you’re not motivated to do anything, then why are you pushing yourself to do more? Honour where you are and how you feel. If you know that you don’t like feeling the way that you do, who or what will help you? Work on getting out of the funk instead of working on work. It’s okay, trust me.

You feel lost or even trapped.

This can happen, especially when there have been significant and unexpected changes brought on. While change is the only constant, it’s easier to navigate when you are prepared for it. Unfortunately, life is quite unpredictable, isn’t it? So ask yourself: What brought this on? How long have I felt this way? Do I need support? What kind? Who can I get it from?

Go easy on yourself. Adjusting to a new normal has no timeframe or deadline. Think of this period of “not doing anything” as your metamorphosis: you may not be doing anything physically, but what is happening to you mentally, emotionally and spiritually? These factors matter just as much, so give them the attention that they deserve and you will emerge from your cocoon as the most beautiful butterfly!

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