Who’s really in control?

Set an intention for your day.

How many times have we heard that? The thing is that even though you may not have something particular in mind (let’s face it, sometimes you just want to get through the day or make it to the weekend), your intention can be very simple – to have a good day.

Many times, our mood – and in turn our day – can easily be ruined by someone else: a partner, friend, coworker, the person behind you at the grocery and the list goes on. But what I find interesting is when your mood or day is ruined by someone you dislike, and then I can only ask one simple question: Why have you given someone that you don’t care for THAT kind of control?

Think of it this way; you intended to have a good day but then someone comes along with their negativity and tries to unload that on you. But what does that have to do with you? Why would you accept that, or make room for something you definitely don’t need? You know what you want/need to do to have a good day, and this person doesn’t. And they don’t know, because it’s none of their business. After all, YOU set an intention for YOUR day. Whatever they want to do with their day is completely up to them!

So how exactly is it that they are now in complete control of your entire day? You do know that’s what happens when you let them get to you, right? As soon as that happens and your mood is ruined,  you have relinquished control of how your day will unfold which in turn causes a significant shift. So who’s really in control, if you are so quick to hand it over? And it’s even more significant if it is to someone you do not necessarily like or care for, and you let them win.

Your reaction is more significant than their action.

You can’t control how they act, but you are in complete control of how you react. So when you’re setting an intention for your day, try to also remember who’s in control – that should start and end with you. So if you want to continue steering the direction in which things go, it’s important to remember that things will come up that can cause a shift. Because, after all, certain people suck sometimes. But if this shift isn’t beneficial to you, how are you going to react?

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